Finding Mr. Right
SPRINGFIELD, Mo. — As parents of four daughters, my wife and I are praying that God will one day send the right young men into their lives. Our two youngest — 9 and 7 — have many years before they contemplate marriage, but it doesn’t hurt to begin coaching them early.
We’ve emphasized the importance of dating young men who are followers of Jesus, who live by biblical principles. We’ve encouraged the girls to seek God’s guidance and to watch for any warning signs regarding a young man’s character or spiritual priorities before saying “I do.”
Recently, I was driving with my two oldest daughters — 18 and 15 — and they wanted to hear my list of warning signs. They already know the value we place on humility, compassion for the poor, and reliance on the Holy Spirit, so I gave them a few tips they found surprising:
Avoid dating guys …
1. Who have more than one set of cuff links.
2. Who flaunt their membership to a country club.
3. Who introduce themselves as “Charles Johnson — The III.”
4. Who are unkind and disrespectful to waiters.
5. Who won’t take out the garbage for their mother.
6. Who address their parents by their first names.
7. Who refuse to ride roller coasters but drive 20 miles over the speed limit.
8. Who have multiple television sets in their bedroom but their Bible looks unused.
9. Who walk two steps ahead of you on the sidewalk but are never on time for church.
10. Who ridicule those holding “will work for food” signs on the side of the road.
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