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Aug. 11, 2010 - Top 10s

By Doug Clay

As you may know, I am in the process of raising two daughters. Actually, if the truth be known, they are raising me! I realize that the family is a training ground for all future relationships, and I am well aware of the essential role that a dad plays in the life of his daughters.

Recently I was asked to write an article on father/daughter perspective. I asked my oldest daughter if she would be willing to write it with me.

We each prepared a top 10 list from our own perspective of what we believe every dad owes his daughters. We did not collaborate or compare notes. I thought you would enjoy reading the results.

Ashley — Top 10 things I have received from my dad:

  1. (And I mean #1!) Prayer. Only in hindsight do I see that the constant prayers of my father have been the key factors in overcoming the spiritual battles I have faced.
  2. Ability to recognize that he raised a human being; not a superhuman. Knowing my father accepts and actually expects failures as a part of life helps keep an honest and open relationship between the two of us.
  3. “Guy Insight.” Since he was a teen/young adult once too, though long ago, the advice my father gives me is not based on what he conjures up, but it is based on his past and his imperfections as a guy. It definitely has helped me see how guys view situations (i.e. certain body language or clothes) differently from girls.
  4. Transparency. Not only has my dad been transparent about his past, he continues to remain transparent about thoughts, fears, weaknesses and failures. It has always assured me that it’s not the situation, but how it’s handled that matters.
  5. Letting me learn through experience. My dad has never let me do anything dangerous, but has allowed me to make decisions on my own and learn through their outcomes; this has made an impact on my life.
  6. Sharing experiences. By being able to share special “daddy/daughter times,” I feel that he has been more than an authority figure; he has been my friend.
  7. Holding my mirror. A unique thing my father has done for me is to guide me, show me when I am not being true to myself, tell me why I deserve to be treated better by others or myself, and help keep me on the path to being who I really want to be. I am grateful for his loving guidance.
  8. Making time, anytime. We girls have always come first. No matter what he has going on or who he is with, he has always talked to us, returned a text or been there when we needed him (or just wanted some chicken nuggets).
  9. Lead by example.
  10. Have fun! My dad enjoys life and knows how to have fun.

Doug — What I believe every dad owes his daughter:

  1. A healthy relationship with the Lord! The most important legacy I can pass on to my girls is an authentic faith in Christ!
  2. Confidence that I will faithfully love, honor and cherish their mom. They should be able to grow up and grow old knowing that Mom and Dad are married ... for life!
  3. The security of my unconditional love. They need to know that regardless of their grades, their looks, their weight, their interests, or how clean their bedrooms are (ouch — that one is tough!) my love is constant.
  4. A reinforced assurance that they are God’s workmanship; created in Christ Jesus and that they are the focus of His love. “Long before he laid down earth’s foundations, he had us in mind, had settled on us as the focus of his love” (Ephesians 1:4, The Message).
  5. An example of humility. This is best portrayed by hearing me say “I’m sorry” when I am wrong!
  6. The courage to speak the truth in love and making sure that they know I have their best interest at heart in all my counsel.
  7. Accessibility. Knowing that they can reach me anytime!
  8. A lifetime of affection. Hugs, kisses, high fives, notes, cards, texts and even some tangible expressions ... like cards with enclosures!
  9. A level of respect for the decisions they make as they get older.
  10. Nonstop prayer support!

It is a sacred honor to be the father of two daughters, and yes, it’s true they grow up fast! I am so thankful that God promised if we train them up in the way they should go, when they are old, they will not depart from that training (Proverbs 22:6).

— Doug Clay is general treasurer of the Assemblies of God.

 

 

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