Vantage Point: People You Love
By Ken Horn
Feb. 24, 2013
Recently, in the space of little more than a month, I lost two very close loved ones … and officiated at both funerals.
Grief is certainly mollified when the ones you lose are not truly lost but know the Lord, and you are certain they are with Him — as was the case with my sister Pat and my wife’s cousin Dick.
But losing people you love and care about is far more than just getting through the process of grief. It is also about what’s gone from your life — memories and experiences you shared primarily, or exclusively, with that person — which can leave an immense sense of emptiness.
It’s also a reminder to make time to be with those you care about. Though the separation will be temporary for believers, it will last the length of your time on earth.
When I knew my sister’s illness was advancing, Peggy and I planned a vacation as soon as possible to be with her. We planned to go several places and enjoy time with her. Those expectations were lowered by her condition, and we planned simply to take her to church. As time passed, even that expectation evaporated. We moved our vacation up a week and were at Pat’s bedside for her final days.
Peggy’s cousin Dick was healthy one day, had an unexpected stroke, and was gone several days later.
I am reminding myself of something I have told people hundreds of times throughout my ministry: You only have a great sense of loss because you were greatly blessed.
I thank God for placing these two people in our lives. I am also thankful we have no regrets within those relationships.
Cherish the people who are close to you. Let them know frequently that you love them. Make sure you have no regrets if they should pass.
And thank God for blessing you by placing them in your life.
Apart from Christ, the people in our lives are most important. Don’t get so caught up in work, play or things that you neglect this great blessing.
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